Still a Man Hears What He Wants to Hear...

I learned this first from Simon and Garfunkel – ...Still a man hears what he wants to hear and disregards the rest. Since then, I have learned that there are reasons why we communicate, behave and think the way that we do.
1. We are all, in part, a product of our genes.
2. We are all, in part, a product of our environment, including our peers and families.
3. We are all, in part, a product of our unique experiences (traumas, life events, etc.)
4. We all have defensive attitudes that both help and harm us.
5. We all want love.
6. We all have suffered emotional pain
7. We don’t want to get hurt anymore.
Recognizing that people are shaped by their past is one thing. Realizing that their communication skills, behavior and thinking, are linked to their past is a life-changing revelation. We look at the world through these goggles or the rose-colored glasses, whatever you prefer, as a result of the all these parts. When you embrace this concept, then you begin to realize that YOU alone decide how YOU react, to any given situation. After you’ve mastered yourself, then you can begin to help others, master themselves. Truly a life-changing revelation!